Ruminations 3: Let our minds be mirrors so we can see within…
How aptly did Sant Kabir Das say:
“I looked for evil all around, I could not find evil;
But when I searched my heart, I found none more evil than myself.”
I remember learning the many beautiful Sant Kabir Das’ sayings in my childhood, but its realisation came to me like a bolt from the blue on the demise of a very good person.
Why is it that we don’t realise all the good qualities of a person when they are with us and why do we blow their negative qualities out of proportion when they live amongst us?
Let’s not point a finger at others — inadvertently three fingers are pointing back at us…
Human nature is such that we tend to look at what good we can say about a person when they are no longer with us. This is exactly what we all do at the loss of someone who matters to us.
There were countless times I had seen them and all I could remember was their smiling face and their loving, caring and respectful demeanour. They were there for me at all times whenever I needed help, I could count on them.
God states in the Qur’an:
If God were to punish men for their wrongdoing, He would not leave, on the earth a single living creature…
So no human being is infallible.
Yet, we dwell so much on the negatives of people, that it clouds our ability to see the good — quite often it is so much larger than the bad. But our obsession with seeing the negatives, dwelling upon it, talking about it blinds our ability to see the good — and sometimes it is too late…
Lesson Learnt: When you see a negative quality — don’t talk about it to anyone other than the person with that quality — if required. Quite often talking with others makes it blow out of proportion that it blinds the ability to see their good.
Just as good radiates good — the reverse is also true! When we discuss a person’s negative attributes or write about them, others around join the discussion to further tarnish that person’s image. Unfortunately, this is human nature. People feel the need to be included in a discussion and by agreeing and contributing to it, the issue is often blown out of proportion.
Instead the discussion could have a completely different meaning, when we could respond with, “I am not free of defects. I have a lot to work on myself. They have a lot of good in them that we could focus on.”
This attitude could turn the whole discussion to a more positive attitude to all concerned.
By doing this we will be doing a big favour to ourselves — Think Positive and Positivity will follow.